Christians, someone asked me to rephrase a Q, so this is it?

Showing love and kindness to you and others like you is always easy dear heart of God. The true test comes, and I've failed often here, when we can show love and patience and turning of the other cheek towards those who don't understand us and despise the God we love and care for.. I've been practicing to STOP when I'm being abused emotionally and intellectually, and begin praying for the party on the other end of the abuse....That way they are helped, I pray, and I am helped ..